January Blog Post
On Goals and Excellence
The new year is a time when we often think about the coming year and what we would like to accomplish. Of course, any time can be a good time for a reset. So, if you didn’t think about 2022 goals yet, it isn’t too late!
Over the last month I have asked the kids to tell me what their goals are for the year ahead. A few have given me well thought out answers. But most look at me blankly like they never considered a personal goal. What a great opportunity for a life lesson!
Consider talking to children even as young as 3 or 4 about their goals. The characteristics of a goal are as follows:
Talk about what success looks like. Success is not perfection. On our path to our goals, we may find it difficult at times. We may experience some failures. Failures are not shameful but rather part of the process. In fact, we often learn more from our failures than from our successes. Talk to your child about a goal you set for yourself and how you learned from your failures on your path to reaching that goal. Children often look at adults as perfect (unless of course you have an adolescent!). Showing them how you struggled to accomplish something will be motivating when they experience the inevitable setback. Help them stay focused on the process and not the product. Think of any skill you have learned (playing a sport or musical instrument) or any goal you have accomplished. You will be able to recall frustrations as well as high points. It is all part of it! All of you who know me know I like to use literature to help kids see common experiences and how others may have accomplished their goals. For little ones, the classic The Little Engine That Could is a good way to encourage them to keep trying. Aesop’s Fables are great bedtime stories about basic values. When I ask children if they have read these classic fables, they are often unfamiliar. For older children, biographies of historical figures or other heroes at an age-appropriate level are inspiring. For parents, I love anything by Brene Brown such as her TED talk (https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en ) or her book The Gifts of Imperfection. Her website is https://brenebrown.com/.
Excellence and realization of goals occur in baby steps over time.
I would like to leave you with a quote that many of you know from a poster in one of my exam rooms:
Watch your thoughts for they become your words.
Watch your words for they become your actions.
Watch your actions for they become your habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
And our children are always watching.
Blessings in the year ahead,
Dr. Dewling
January Blog Post
On Goals and Excellence
The new year is a time when we often think about the coming year and what we would like to accomplish. Of course, any time can be a good time for a reset. So, if you didn’t think about 2022 goals yet, it isn’t too late!
Over the last month I have asked the kids to tell me what their goals are for the year ahead. A few have given me well thought out answers. But most look at me blankly like they never considered a personal goal. What a great opportunity for a life lesson!
Consider talking to children even as young as 3 or 4 about their goals. The characteristics of a goal are as follows:
Talk about what success looks like. Success is not perfection. On our path to our goals, we may find it difficult at times. We may experience some failures. Failures are not shameful but rather part of the process. In fact, we often learn more from our failures than from our successes. Talk to your child about a goal you set for yourself and how you learned from your failures on your path to reaching that goal. Children often look at adults as perfect (unless of course you have an adolescent!). Showing them how you struggled to accomplish something will be motivating when they experience the inevitable setback. Help them stay focused on the process and not the product. Think of any skill you have learned (playing a sport or musical instrument) or any goal you have accomplished. You will be able to recall frustrations as well as high points. It is all part of it! All of you who know me know I like to use literature to help kids see common experiences and how others may have accomplished their goals. For little ones, the classic The Little Engine That Could is a good way to encourage them to keep trying. Aesop’s Fables are great bedtime stories about basic values. When I ask children if they have read these classic fables, they are often unfamiliar. For older children, biographies of historical figures or other heroes at an age-appropriate level are inspiring. For parents, I love anything by Brene Brown such as her TED talk (https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en ) or her book The Gifts of Imperfection. Her website is https://brenebrown.com/.
Excellence and realization of goals occur in baby steps over time.
I would like to leave you with a quote that many of you know from a poster in one of my exam rooms:
Watch your thoughts for they become your words.
Watch your words for they become your actions.
Watch your actions for they become your habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
And our children are always watching.
Blessings in the year ahead,
Dr. Dewling
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