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Doug's philosophy & CHOICE THEORY

Choice Theory helps explain why so many people that have so much to live for, admit, “I’m miserable.” When asked why, almost all of them will blame someone else for the misery they feel – spouses, partners, lovers, family, co-workers, etc. It never crosses their minds that they are choosing the misery they are complaining about. Choice Theory explains that, for all practical purposes, we choose everything we do, including the misery we feel. Think about it!

Through his expertise, he creates a clinical atmosphere where clients feel comfortable and safe enough to embrace the vulnerability one might experience while in therapy. He works one-on-one with individuals and couples in a personalized setting, allowing him to interact with the unique needs of each individual.

Doug's clinical perspective balances in and around an approach that moves a client’s focus off of what’s wrong and onto what’s right and helps them take the role of expert (which they hold anyway) and take responsibility for setting their own goals and reaching them. As a therapist, he feels that it may not always be about what’s missing and causes woe, but may be what’s present and can lead to happiness. This new behavior cannot ignore the idea that events may look different on the outside but often is still related to the same underlying belief. Being diametrically opposed to external control, I see too often the belief that some people think they have enough knowledge to decide what’s right or wrong with the people around them. Knowing what is right or wrong for someone else, is simply a fantasy language that some people use when they are trying to manipulate someone else.

Many relationships can be mended; however, there are others who eventually need help in navigating separation or divorce. If you are experiencing personal difficulty, it is almost always because you have not been able to figure out a way to negotiate differences with someone important to you. Solution building is an important goal in anyone’s life, meaning, when you change the language that shapes how you think about any problem, you will eventually change the language that shapes how you think about the opportunities that exist for yourself.

Are There Any Potential Harms from Therapy?

Due to the nature of therapy, at times you may be exploring difficult emotions and experiences that you would normally avoid. This may feel scary or unpleasant at times as you learn to work through and deal with certain emotions. At times it may be frustrating that improvement does not happen more quickly and will challenge your comfort zone. Also, at times other people in your life may feel threatened or nervous that through therapy you might choose to make specific changes in your life that could affect them.

You can take charge and learn how to handle your dilemma in a positive way. Take the first step and let Douglas K. Lormand, LPC help you understand that relationships truly can be satisfying. Contact Douglas K. Lormand now.

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